tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-131589762747687685.post8848273817357729265..comments2023-10-06T03:08:45.481-05:00Comments on The blog of a new postdoc: CP Snow's Two Cultures and DatingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-131589762747687685.post-11296157768590784312008-01-22T17:53:00.000-06:002008-01-22T17:53:00.000-06:00I thought it was neat. I'm not usually psychic.I thought it was neat. I'm not usually psychic.JZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15244717018376502440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-131589762747687685.post-46976558149332691722008-01-20T15:58:00.000-06:002008-01-20T15:58:00.000-06:00Ok. Sorry for overinterpreting...Ok. Sorry for overinterpreting...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-131589762747687685.post-61357750355665938622008-01-15T11:42:00.000-06:002008-01-15T11:42:00.000-06:00Funny. When I said "France", I was just thinking ...Funny. When I said "France", I was just thinking of a random country which was different from the US without trying to find any particular connection to anyone.JZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15244717018376502440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-131589762747687685.post-55158654617088536022008-01-10T18:28:00.000-06:002008-01-10T18:28:00.000-06:00Well I can agree to this as a general rule. The co...Well I can agree to this as a general rule. The comparison with the culture (e.g. the country) is right - actually I also had this in mind when I wrote my previous comment.<BR/><BR/>Just to add something else : the fact that people tend to date more with someone of their own culture/background may mainly stem from the fact that it's the category they meet most of the time. Of course it's obvious for countries, but it still stands for the educational background : studies and research will have you meet people from your own field (own laboratory + seminars, conferences, etc.). For one who don't practice online dating (which I believe is still a majority of people :), these may be their major opportunities to meet people.<BR/><BR/>PS : "US and France" Is that a cool thing that one's country can be known so easily ? Hmm... but I don't like falses IP either so I guess I brought this on myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-131589762747687685.post-32674786466780183022008-01-09T17:33:00.000-06:002008-01-09T17:33:00.000-06:00Hi Tingel, You're totally right about the substant...Hi Tingel, <BR/><BR/>You're totally right about the substantial individual variation in traits and analysis. That's why I think that it's a question of culture. There's a lot of individual variation within the US and France, but many people still feel more comfortable in one country or the other, and prefer to marry someone from the same country. Of course, since I'm speaking in averages, there are exceptions. <BR/><BR/>My claim is that even though there may be lots of variation within the culture of "science" and the culture of "humanities", many people feel most comfortable in one of the two cultures and prefer to marry someone from the same culture. Of course, there are exceptions.JZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15244717018376502440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-131589762747687685.post-19410820520188263772008-01-08T19:46:00.000-06:002008-01-08T19:46:00.000-06:00Hmm several things here (would have commented prev...Hmm several things here (would have commented previous posts too, but well now they're too old :).<BR/><BR/>First, as you notice yourself, your dichotomy is quite bold. By reading you, I thought you may be scientific, but it wasn't the only option - for instance, you could have been, say an analytical philosopher. Being quantitative or interdisciplinary isn't the only way to get a sharp, clear cut style. Besides, there are other possible "common grounds". Take someone working in business. Or an artist. Or someone making concrete, simple things (furniture, glass objects). You'll find different ways of thinking, as different as the two you mentioned.<BR/><BR/>Anyway. This common ground thing sounds true but it cannot be generalized that much. Some people (such as myself, so I'm not making this up :) often end up bored faster with someone who shares too much background. Actually, there are good and bad sides to it. Feeling somthing in common that goes without saying is good. But already knowing how, or what the partner thinks can quickly become an issue - as it sometimes happens in old couples knowing each other too well, but in a young couple... a "different ground" can create a freshness that does not have to be artificial nor temporary.<BR/><BR/>And there's another factor here : the fact that a "background" can have links with the way one person understands life in general. There are different degrees. Beeing a scientific (no attack here, I have a scientific education myself) doesn't give one any special angle by which he could understand life/the world/etc. A little more if one's in business (though I don't like this angle...). Usually more in the humanities. I'm not talking about assets and drawbacks here, just about the fact that knowing someone with a different background can open up your perspectives, on a daily basis. You'll be surprised, learn things maybe, see things with a different view. THat can also be completely unpleasant too, of course. But when it's not, I find it much richer, much nicer for a relationship. To be uncomfortable at least means not to be numb...<BR/><BR/>Ok I got a little carried away. Neutral conclusion : Each to his own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com